I came across a great description in a book I am reading, it was said in a few lines, but it made me think, thus the inspiration for this new article. The base of the story was how we do not really know how to allow the process of grief or of any thing that takes more than a few weeks in our north American culture.
The story was about two friends talking, one was in grief over a loss and the other friend, thought she was taking to long as in she was constantly sharing and trying to understand what she was were going through, all of her emotions that was taking time to process and needed to express. There is a great difference between being obsessed and being in a process.
Obsession is when we have given all our power over to a thought, a place, a dream or a person etc. We know we are lost in obsession if we are in that place of not letting go and try try try to seek the answer or the outcome that we want. Nothing else can get in as in what’s real to us, most can fall pray to this in love affairs with romantic attachments, man oh man I do not miss those days or emotional hooks.
We can tell all kinds of stories to our selves or even go and consult several psychics or any form of divinity, until we get the answer we want. When our thoughts just keep going back to that one place, where nothing else seems real, then this is obsession. The inability to let go and let flow or in this case, let go and let god.
Processing, as in telling someone you are in the process of getting your Masters for an art degree, or you are processing another round of healing, so that the old tapes or old energy that was stuck in you and made you prey to acts of sabotage is no longer. This to me is healthy and needed and as I always teach and share, healing is a process, there is a vast difference between processing and being stuck in something or a pattern, where we are receiving a negative pay off that supports any type of disempowerment.
Honor yourself this day if in fact you need a time out to pray, to process, honor the time it may take to heal an issue that goes way back in your DNA. Life is not a race, healing of any thing that has value to us and meaning takes time. The blessing is inside of knowing when you are on the right path and allowing the time frames to be as to what is and what will be. Self love, self respect are the graces of integrity and worth that is now being born from any healing process.
Michael @ New Wisdom Blog 2019